Men vs Women

"Men Are From Mars And Women Are From Venus"

        Women and men are very different, not only from different physical aspects. there are still many different things in women and men. Therefore I will explain how the differences are between them. With an illustration of a quarrel that is common between men and women, Dr. John Gray explained the emergence of these differences between the two sexes that interfere with the creation of complementary love relationships. Based on his success in giving years of guidance to married couples and individuals, he advises on how to overcome differences in relationships.

Once upon time, a mars met a venus. They fall in love and eventually establish a relationship because they respect each other and accept what they are in accordance with the differences they have. However, when they arrived on planet earth, they suffered from amnesia. They experience very strange amnesia, everything they have learned about themselves has disappeared from their memory. Even they forget that they also come from different planets. And since that day they have been in conflict.

1. This section explains how men and women face pressure. If a man is going to be indifferent and wants to be alone, the woman on the contrary he always wants to talk about the problem. and that becomes a big problem for both. When a man gives him attention, women instead move away from him. Whereas when a woman talks about her problem, a woman will make him seem to be a troublemaker in that matter.

”One of the biggest differences between men and women is how they deal with pressure. Men are increasingly focused and withdrawn, while women become increasingly overwhelmed and emotionally involved.” - page 21

2. The author likens men like rubber bands. When they stay away, women don't understand and try to approach men to find out the problem. And women also punish men because they stay away from themselves. And that makes men uncomfortable.

“This cycle is approaching, withdrawing, then approaching again.” - page 43

3. A woman's changing feelings make things go out of control when a woman begins to establish a relationship. There are things men must do and don't do. It's good for men not to feel guilty about this. But if a woman is experiencing a changeable feeling, he must always be by his side when he needs it, because she only wants to be listened to by her partner with all the feelings he wants to tell.

“When a woman's wave begins to tide, she feels she has a lot of love to give, but when she recedes she feels something empty inside her and needs to be filled with love. When it's completely empty, that's the time for emotional cleansing.” - page 56

4. Women will feel happy if they are loved and valued by their partners, they are also very happy when their partners always encourage with motivations that make them feel very capable.

“Women will feel motivated and feel capable when they feel loved.” - page 66

5. If a man will feel happy if his decision is highly valued by his partner and will feel happy always prioritized in any case.

“Men will feel motivated and feel capable when they feel needed.”page 72

6. When disputing, the initially calm conversation becomes out of control. Continue to fight until it uses words that hurt the couple. To avoid heartache due to quarrels, men and women must always communicate, that is a very important key. if they do not communicate with each other during a fight, their relationship can be destroyed just because they cannot control their emotions and selfishness.

“Communication is the most important element in a relationship, while contention is the most destructive element.”− page 78

7. This is a very common thing between men and women. When dating, men of course love that women change it little by little, but believe it won't be the same when married.

“The secret of empowering a man is not trying to change it or fix it.” - page 90

8. No partner has a relationship there is no problem, each relationship must have a problem and have a way of how they can solve it properly. That love can be compared to the seasons. Spring like the two couples are having a very good relationship without the slightest problem, summer as both are experiencing trials in maintaining a relationship, and others like autumn and winter. At least when it has passed all the phases above, then we will realize the meaning of love which is likened to those seasons.

“Love is seasonal.” - page 122

Like that is part of the differences between men and women in a relationship. we must respect each other and love each other even though we are different in everything. a relationship will become harmonious if both partners are able to maintain the relationship when the storm arrives. even though we come from different planets, our dreams remain one. we really come from different backgrounds and different habits, but if we can fight for what we both feel, no matter how difficult it will be, there will be a way.